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See seven ways to cope with a lying partner

Is your boyfriend or girlfriend a compulsive or pathological liar and do you think confronting him or her will only make matters worse? Here are ways to handle the situation

Spot the lie:

The first thing you have to do is be able to spot your lover’s lie. Of course, the telltale signs would be there and you need to open your eyes wide to be able to identify them. In any case, most of the lies lovers tell go undetected, simply because those involved downplay the chance that a partner would actually lie, while in addition, they overestimate their ability to spot their partner’s lies. Watch out for signs such as trying to avoid the truth during conversations. That is a sure way to know what you are in for.

Be honest about your feelings:

According to, many people make the mistake of hiding what they truly feel about their lover’s lie. Don’t hide what you feel. Be honest with him or her and say how much you hurt, and even more importantly, tell him or her why it hurts so much. Emphasise that it will be a long time before you fully trust again.

Be honest, don’t just say “it’s okay” and then harbour all those negative feelings. You have to own up to them so that you can be able to forgive him or her.

Take a break:

It’s also okay to take a break from each other and let the tension and anger settle down. Trying to force a fake calm is much worse than just giving yourself a little time away from each other.

Pay attention to actions, not words:

After a lie, your lover’s words will not mean much to you. You’ll constantly wonder if he or she’s lying again or if he’ or she’s just trying to say the right things so he or she can keep lying to you in the future. You will have a difficult time trusting his or her words, so pay closer attention to his or her actions. If he’s actually doing what he says he’ll do to make things right,and you can then trust his actions.

Take your time:

Don’t feel like you have to be in a hurry to forgive your boyfriend or girlfriend for lying to you. This isn’t a race to clear your emotions. Trust takes time to build, and even longer to rebuild after it’s been broken. Take the time you need to rebuild your trust.

Set some guidelines:

After someone breaks your trust, there will be questions and fears, but there will also be some very serious concerns surrounding the situation regarding the lie. For example, if your man or woman cheated on you with a co-worker, then you will, without a doubt, want him or her to stop working with that woman or man.

If your man lied to you when he was out with his friend (a friend of questionable character), then you will want him to spend less time with that friend. Don’t be afraid to set up some guidelines so that he has the chance to work on building your trust.

If he really wants to keep your relationship and rebuild the trust, obvious and logical requests such as this will not be a problem for him and he’ll be happy to make that sacrifice.

Still try to believe in your lover:

Finally, if you want to rebuild the trust in your relationship after your boyfriend or girlfriend has lied to you, then you have to actually believe in him or her. Remember that nobody’s perfect and people make mistakes your relationship is worth fighting for and trying again. Believe that person you fell in love with your partner and that he or she really wants to prove that to you again.

Open your heart and allow your lover in, otherwise nothing he or she ever does will make you trust again. A relationship takes two people, through the bad and the good times, so believe in your partner and believe in your relationship.


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